“When we refer to charm, we’re not talking about table manners, good looks or being a snappy dresser; we’re talking about something much more profound.”
“Charm is the result of using specific skills that most of us know little or nothing about.”
1. Accept others unconditionally
Avoid being critical of other people. To enhance someone’s self-esteem and happiness, smile when you meet them. You can do this without saying a word.
“People with charm avoid being inflexible and judgmental.”
2. Show your appreciation for other people’s contributions
It doesn’t matter if the contribution is large or small, knowledge it. Appreciation is linked directly to self-esteem and all you have to do to express it charmingly is to say “thank you.” Being grateful enhances your self-esteem, making you better prepared to give others a boost.
“Without recognition and praise, many of us would perform well below our potential.”
3. Offer affirmation
People thirst for approval. Verifying their actions with your approval confirms their decisions and enhances their self-esteem.
“One of the most fundamental secrets of charm [is] being able to see the world through the other person’s eyes.”
4. Compliment others
A compliment re-energizes someone’s self-esteem. You can compliment a person’s appearance, fashion sense, actions or accomplishments.
“Think what power there is in being able to make somebody feel wonderful about himself.”
5. Pay attention
Listening attentively to others is essential to developing charm.
“The first step toward becoming a completely charming person is to become a great listener.”